Sometime, we just need a big cuddle!
For a few months, I have been thinking about something between meeting for a drink and meeting under the sheets. After a discussion with one of you, that took shape in my head.
Important: this encounter does not include any arousal, genital caresses, touching my breasts, etc. The only « naked » part of my body that you will be able to caress will be my back. If you’re looking for excitement, even without penetration, then this will be a « Meeting under the sheets ».
Why do I offer this type of date?
First of all, these dates are for:
- For those who are afraid or anxious about intimate relationships
- For those who are really shy
- For those who had been traumatized by an experience (recent or past) and who want to take our relationship one step at a time.
This approach can help people to get used to touch and contact without the pressure of having sex after. We can discuss together the steps you want to take during the date. For example, you could tell me that you would like to hold my hand, touch my thigh, give me a kiss (I accept gentle kisses on the mouth but not French kisses) or a kiss on the cheek.
But cuddle dates are also made for people who are suffering from loneliness and only want a cuddle, physical contact without it being sexual. After the first lockdown, I had a lot of men who were telling me that they really needed to see me while clarifying that sex was not important, that they were looking for some company with cuddles and caresses after such a long time without contact. Then, the working from home and the closing of the restaurants and pubs increased this type of demand.
However I’ve noticed that it was difficult for a man to say “I want a cuddle” so it’s often hidden behind, “I want to see you to have a great moment of discussion and sex”. Because of gender stereotypes, cuddles are seen as feminine needs and sometimes, it’s even a shame for a man to ask for it. We aren’t going to beat around the bush: if you need to cuddle, if your wishes consist of you lying on a bed and me caressing your back and your head, if you only want somebody to hold at night before sleeping hand in hand (I can’t sleep if I’m against somebody), etc. never be ashamed of contacting me. First, it will not decrease your masculinity and, if it can help you feel better, why would you deprive yourself of it?
What are we doing?
So, it’s not exhaustive but here are a few of my ideas:
- We can talk about how to touch/cuddle somebody (we can work on your fears, on your doubts, we can speak about how to touch a girl without a sexual meaning, etc.)
- Getting used to each other’s touch without it being sexual
- Cuddling and massaging (I love it!)
- We can do this in comfortable clothes (this could be an opportunity to offer me a lovely silk pyjamas to make the cuddles sweeter). Except if we know each other well (and I know that you are a gentleman). I won’t be in my underwear (you can be shirtless if you like or in your pants if you feel like enjoying a long massage)
Rates (only possible in Toulouse but if you want a longer date anywhere else we can discuss):
« Pause tendresse » (from Monday to Friday, 12p.m-7p.m):
2hr: 350 euros
3hr: 450 euros
Lunch/diner and cuddletherapy (from Monday to Sunday, 12p.m-12a.m):
4hr: 500 euros
5hr: 600 euros
6hr: 700 euros
Overnight: 1000 euros
Longer date: to discuss